Women and men don’t always agree about what qualifies as great sex. Due to our differing anatomies, what feels pleasurable to one partner may not be all that impressive to the other.
In this satisfaction battle of the sexes, women often lose out. “Intercourse itself seems to be designed really for giving the man pleasure,” says Deborah Caust, clinical sexologist and licensed marriage and family therapist.
There is hope, however, in the form of relatively simple sex positions, specially curated by Caust with women’s desires in mind. Of course, none of these amount to much without foreplay, proper lubrication, and communication, but combine any one of them with that trifecta, and the both of you will be well on your way to having great sex.
Edge of the Bed
This position is a common favorite for both men and women, as it encourages deep penetration. With the woman lying on her back (hips at the edge of the bed), the man enters her from under her legs.
Her legs can rest up against his torso or she can place her feet on his chest, options that allow her some control over what angle feels best. (Note: this position can be a bit problematic for more well-endowed men.)
The Coital Alignment Technique or CAT is penetrative sex position designed to stimulate the clitoris. It is a modification of missionary position where the woman has her legs together and the man has his apart.
The man then uses his legs to move his entire body. When done correctly this position should move the woman’s mons Venus (the fatty tissue covering the pubic bones) over the shaft of her erectile tissue, which lies under the skin.
In this position, a man will only be able to penetrate about an inch or so inside the vagina but not to worry, Caust says men still get plenty of satisfying sensation. “Even though [men] are more used to being able to thrust inside completely, they’re feeling her thighs everywhere,” she says. “So he is getting complete stimulation anyway.”
Right away, know that this position requires some added effort and flexibility — but it pays off for the woman by offering lots of control.
To get into Amazon position, the man lies on his back and brings his knees to his chest. The woman then squats down onto him, with his legs wrapping over hers.
Variations of this position include reversing the woman’s position or having her kneel over her partner.
The Sunday Afternoon
The ease of this position inspires its pleasant name, and it’s another great choice for full access to the clitoris.
This position is a variation on an “X” position, like scissors. Specifically, the man lies on his side and the woman lies on her back.
She puts one leg over his hip and the other can wrapped around his lower leg to pull him in close.
This is for couples looking for something outside the norm. It allows for both deep insertion and total clitoral stimulation, so it’s a big win-win.
To get in this position, the woman lies down on her back and the man kneels. She places one leg on her partner’s shoulder and the other around his thigh.
Some added cushioning for the woman, like a pillow, can make the experience even better.
This version of woman-on-top doesn’t ask for much physical effort from either partner but gives her control and him access to her clitoris and breasts.
The man and woman face each other in this position, with him seated and her in his lap, kneeling with her legs outside his.
This position allows for a lot of variety as couples can choose to cuddle close or lean away for new sensations.
Doggy style needs no introduction, and, really, any variation on the enter-from-behind position can be a top choice for making a woman feel amazing.
Again, this position gives her some control over the pacing and allows for easy clitoral stimulation with either partner’s hands.
This position can be a challenge to explain clearly but it’s actually quite simple.
The woman lies on her back and her partner enters her from the side.
This allows her to have her clitoris up against his top leg.
Men already love this position because it offers quite the view — and the minimal effort is sometimes a welcome reprieve.
Women are fans as well because it allows them to control the speed, depth, and angle of penetration while also making manual stimulation of the clitoris easy for either partner.
If you want to find out what position your partner likes most, ask her. Even if she isn’t certain what exactly works for her, she at least has some idea of the types of sex that turn her on.
“For some women, pleasure comes from face-to-face, looking at each other and saying beautiful things while kissing,” says Caust. “And for other women, it comes from effective erotic touching.”